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Updated: Jun 28, 2020

Tips for parents

Tips for Parents

Children are not accurate reporters of feelings. What adults manage to express verbally, children may express via emotional outbursts, sadness, inability to sleep, poor appetite, hyperactivity (which can also be caused by masked anxiety and depression), and difficulty speaking. My daughters were two years old when they began experiencing a hard time falling asleep. It was a huge struggle. Sometimes I felt as though they became more talkative and energetic as the night progressed.

At two, my daughters were still on a nap schedule. Removing the nap would result in my kids becoming cranky and overly exhausted by 6 pm. When night came around, they had a hard time falling asleep without me singing to them for hours. I had the patience to sit with them, but I also noticed that my kids were not receiving the restful sleep they needed. As a health care professional, I was familiar with the latest approaches to getting kids to sleep. Nothing worked. One night, when all hope seemed lost, I decided to try an NLP concept I had used with athletes as part of Peak Performance Training and adjust it to fit the two toddlers' developmental level. This was my last resort. And IT WORKED!

One night just as my daughters were dozing off, I stood over them, placing the palms of my hands on their eyes. 'We are going to see good dreams.' I spoke softly. I then cupped their little heads with my hands and whispered, 'We are going to have happy thoughts.' I finished by placing both my hands on their chest and whispered, 'And we will feel happy feelings.' The secret was CATCHING my daughters as they were naturally slipping into sleep. I knew the mind does not know what happens first, the natural sensations of 'sleepiness' or my hand gestures followed by soothing statements. After catching the girls in the moment of falling into sleep (also known as the hypnagogic-state), their minds and bodies learned that when Dad says the phrase, 'and we will feel good feelings,' they have to fall asleep.

We created a wonderful bedtime tradition that my daughters still remember fondly. Every night I tucked the girls in and sand them a song. I told them a story. Each selected a topic of her choice. One daughter always asked me to tell her stories about princesses and unicorns. Her twin was harder to please. She wanted stories about magic peaches, flying worms, and talking trains. But when all was said and done, I kissed them on their foreheads, and said the three seemingly magical statements coupled with the hand movements: 1. We are going to see pleasant dreams. 2. We are going to have happy thoughts. 3. We will feel happy feelings.

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